This week in Red Flag Ahoy news, director Cary Joji Fukunaga, best known for the one good season ofTrue Detectiveand films like野兽的NationandNo Time To Die，被三名妇女指控不当行为。在这一点上，问题不是“谁是蠕变”，而是“谁不是蠕变”，但我要告诉你，卡里·福古纳加（Cary Fukunaga）不在我的“可能是蠕变”宾果卡上。但是，事后看来，也许他应该去过reportedly dating Margaret Qualley，当时只有22岁，而福古纳加（Fukunaga）则是39岁。虽然倾向于将20多岁的人杀害，这使整个队列造成了损害，而与大量年龄差距的关系可以起作用，但此时在时间轴上，但30多岁的人的约会模式可能是一个危险信号。它似乎总是以这样的sh-t结束。
There was also the thing where he (allegedly) pressured an actor, Raeden Greer,to do a nude scene inTrue Detectiveeven though it wasn’t originally in her contract. Greer added she lost the speaking role to an extra who agreed to do the scene and called the experience “disheartening”. I honestly don’t know how I forgot about this, but let the record reflect that Raeden Greer told us who Cary Fukunaga was years ago.
The new allegations come from Rachelle Vinberg, a skateboarder turned actor who starred in the 2018 film滑板厨房, and the HBO seriesBetty，两者都基于她所属的一群女士滑冰运动员。起初，温伯格并没有为她在一系列中说话的人命名Instagram stories, but she ended up revealing it was Fukunaga and that she met him after a casting director scouted her and Fukunaga offered her a paid commercial job. She says they met the “day after [she] turned 18”; for reference, Fukunaga is 21 years her senior. Vinberg also revealed she’s been in therapy and has been diagnosed with PTSD relating to her time with Fukunaga, and she felt she had to speak out because Fukunaga holds himself out as an ally to women, while harming women behind the scenes. That is also what prompted Raeden Greer to speak out.
But wait, it gets worse, because it didn’t end with Vinberg. Hannah and Cailin Loesch, twin sisters who starred in the 2018 Netflix showManiac，由福冈（Fukunaga）执导，支持温伯格（Vinberghere. The highlights: they were 20 when they met Fukunaga on the set ofManiac, they had a three year, “hot-and-cold relationship” with him which included Fukunaga asking how they felt about threesomes and (allegedly) saying “incest is fine if all parties are okay with it” (RED. FLAG.). Ultimately, the twins tried to get Fukunaga to say if he was genuinely interested in Cailin or not, but he wouldn’t, so they finally parted ways, concluding, “Sometimes manipulation is less of a scream and more of a million little whispers”.
The themes present across all stories is that Cary Fukunaga pursues very young women even as he gets older—he’s Wooderson, but it’s not funny (to be fair toDazed and Confused, the film knows Wooderson is a creep, it’s just that Matthew McConaughey’s charm overrides the film’s assumption that Wooderson is a loser). There is also a common strain of manipulation, of Fukunaga trying to pressure these young women, who genuinely liked him but felt out of their depth with him, into sexual acts. This reminds me of the Aziz Ansari story, which was less about abuse andmore about consent, and how poorly understood it is in modern sexual politics. There are undoubtedly a lot of people who will point out that all of these women are over the legal age of consent, that they all agreed to go out with Fukunaga, that they all admit to liking him, that he didn’t actually DO anything, that none of this is criminal behavior. And yes, creepy does not equal criminal.
但是，随着我们继续谈论同意和对妇女的支持，令人毛骨悚然的行为必须成为对话的一部分。我们必须谈论帅哥如何阅读不适的身体线索，以及社会和文化的多少培训男人期望和克服女性的一定程度的身体抵抗，以及这两件事之间的关系。我们应该停止浪漫化大男孩和年轻女性。同样，我敢肯定，有些人处于安全和充满爱心的年龄差距关系中，但也许您是例外，而不是规则。因为一个40岁的人始终碰到20岁的孩子，更不用说试图将双胞胎聊成三人行，这是一场危险店里的危险旗上的bogo销售。
Vinberg points out that Fukunaga genuinely believes he’s a good guy, that he’s a good ally to women, despite how he treated her, and Hannah and Cailin Loesch, and Raeden Greer. THAT is the thing we have to fix. Not every #MeToo conversation is about criminal abuse, many of these conversations are about the huge disconnect between what we culturally understand as “supporting women” and how individual men behave behind closed doors. Consent, manipulation, emotional abuse, it's all part and parcel of shifting how we discuss behavior and sexual politics. But that’s the part of the conversation that never gained real traction in the wake of #MeToo. Everyone says, “Oh that’s just bad dates,” or, “Maybe he’s a creep but he’s not a criminal,” so the normalized patterns of sh-tty behavior continue because we’ve never really reckoned with them. It’s like the Loesch twins said, it’s not always about the screams, sometimes it's about the whispers. We have to start dealing with the whispers, before they turn into screams.
