HGTV star Jonathan Scott recently opened up about becoming a stepdad to Zooey Deschanel’s two children, Elsie, 7, and Charlie, 5. Scott recalled an experience with a tarot card reader whose psychic senses were indicating he would become a father within a year. But considering he was single at the time, he thought it was pretty farfetched. When he started dating Zooey and eventually became a bonus dad, he says it all made sense.
“When she was doing my cards, she’s like, ‘Ah, yes. You will be a father within the year.’ I wasn’t even dating anyone at the time. Three months later, I met Zooey. We then started dating, never even thought of it until all of a sudden — I was the insta-dad.”
The couple has come a long way since their initial meeting onCarpool Karaoke，这两个星星都与兄弟姐妹在一起，分别是艾米丽·德斯卡内尔（Emily Deschanel）和德鲁·斯科特（Drew Scott）。两人打开它，开始约会，然后购买他们的梦想家，这是一座乔治亚风格的房屋，建于1938年，在加利福尼亚，孩子们命名为“the park house”.
This past Father’s Day, Deschanel posted a photo to Instagram of ex-husband Jacob Pechenik and Jonathan captioned “So thankful my kids have these two awesome guys in their lives: @jonathanscott and their dad @jacobpechenik.”
As someone navigating the often treacherous terrain of co-parenting, it’s wonderful to see celebrities, or anyone for that matter, getting it right. Because in a perfect world,this是共同父母的样子。Exes，新的合作伙伴和孩子都应该能够在同一房间里，甚至旅行并度过美好的时光。但是我经常想知道，作为名人，共同父母是更容易或更困难的。
For those of us who don’t have the wealth and fame that an HGTV star or an actress might, money is almost always the biggest issue. Co-parenting with someone who is unable to make their child support payments can add a layer of stress, inconvenience, deep resentment and most importantly, missed opportunities for children who come from families that lack financial privilege. For ex-couples who live in different cities, provinces or states, not being able to start the private jet or hop on a plane to spend quality time can also affect one’s ability to co-parent amicably with an ex. So in terms of finances, there must be a lot less to worry about.
But on the other hand, celebrities sometimes face a lot more pressure to get it right, so to speak, than non-celebrities. The pressure to keep up appearances and give off the impression that everything is fine, even when it may not be, must be hard to deal with. There’s so much invitation for public scrutiny, and that’s something that even on my worst days of co-parenting, I’ve never had to worry about.
在社交媒体之前，获得星星及其生活的机会非常受限制。照片来自杂志的拍摄或狗仔队，如果幸运的话，可以看到明星的照片。和他们精心选择的信息实际上只能通过广播，电视采访或我个人最喜欢的全部回忆录或纪录片（说到纪录片，您看过新的新闻稿）才能访问仙妮亚唐恩一？极好的！）。
Now, though, following a celebrity on social media, one who is active anyway, can really grant you a front-row seat into their lives. A simple podcast listen can expose everything from previously-unknown details about their personality to their deepest secrets and most difficult truths to the world. And with Twitter and Instagram becoming the new place to do everything from issue break up or divorce statements to cancelling concerts and tours, we carry unprecedented access to these celebrities in our back pockets. And what is that access doing to us?Forus? Tolol比赛视频2019？
最近，我和我的伴侣一起搬进来。他的儿子6岁，我的女儿4岁，他们相处得很好。但是我和我女儿的父亲也不能说同样的话。我经常将与前任的关系与我目前伴侣与他的前妻的关系进行比较 - 这是非常不同的，他们相处融洽。在我们约会的第一年，她邀请我们过圣诞节和敬酒期间，欢迎我来到家人。我无语。我觉得自己在暮光区。尤其是考虑到我的最后，我发现自己与我的前任进行了令人讨厌，昂贵且持续的法庭之战。
There’s a level of shame, embarrassment, and failure when I think of how sour my relationship has turned with my daughter’s dad. I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve laid in bed wondering how we humans can go from loving someone enough to create a child with them to doing your best to not have to speak to them, despite being connected by tiny, wonderful humans. On any given day, I have a deep desire to pick up the phone and call him to share this ridiculously funny thing our daughter just did, or send him photos of her being silly during her time with me. But the current state of our relationship simply doesn’t allow for it.
And call it selfish, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t lift my spirits when I see celebrities who don’t have it all figured it, like Deschanel, Pechenik and Scott seem to. It makes me feel less alone when even celebrities can’t seem to get co-parenting, or parenting in general, right. When I see former couples like Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, who between the two of them, have got boat loads of money, having their own issues, it reminds me that not every co-parenting situation is going to be picturesque.
我记得宝拉·帕顿（Paula Patton）与罗宾·蒂克（Robin Thicke）在儿子朱利安（Julian）上的痛苦监护之战。在我怀孕期间，这是一个非常大的新闻故事，但我从来没有想到几年后，我也是法庭上的父母。
还有许多其他夫妇共同参观我的共同旅行，甚至在我知道自己会与前任共同父母之前。当我的命运改变时，成为我朋友小组中唯一的女人，我真的向任何人（包括名人在内的人）看，以了解如何了解如何lol比赛视频2019they正在这样做。我读了头条新闻，采访，听播客，从他们发现自己的情况中汲取教训。
贝丝妮·弗兰克尔（Bethenny Frankel）和杰森·霍普（Jason Hoppy）的处境可能脱颖而出，因为它是如此记日Real Housewives of New York。目睹了与前夫的斗争的挫败感，失望和巨大的代价，与她在经历了几年相当困难的几年之后似乎在他身上发现的幸福形成对比，这真是一个真正的唤醒呼唤，这使这些东西变得多么丑陋。
帕顿（Patton）和蒂克（Thicke）花了几年的时间，但他们似乎在共同育儿的关系方面取得了长足的进步。这似乎是因为他们寻求共同育儿的疗法，这是您拥有财务手段时可以做的另一件事，而我的前任和我绝对可以从中受益。
“When we were first going through divorce, there was bickering,”蒂克透露了额外的last year。“然后，我们使用了共同的夫妻疗法，这确实为我们打开了更好的沟通之门。”
蒂克继续说他们的儿子现在正在蓬勃发展。也许这是这里的关键。孩子们在压力和敌意较小的环境中做得更好也就不足为奇了，这一次又一次，金钱。尽管父母可能试图在他们的共同情况下掩盖冲突，但孩子比我们赞扬的要聪明得多。它们也是可以感知空气中能量的直觉生物。但是，成年人在压力和敌意较小的环境中也蓬勃发展。
我的女儿问了一些关于我与父亲关系的性质的棘手问题。而且很难回答，因为我想在这两个房屋中给她一贯的消息传递，但是我必须成为一名特别的调查员，以找出当她不和我在一起时发生的对话。
It’s a tough place to be in, but one thing is for sure. I can still celebrate seeing former couples finding their footing, while feeling incredibly connected to those that haven’t yet. And I can, and will, ride the wings of hope with as much might as I can and pray that we all get there someday.
附件 - 昨晚参加戏剧后，Zooey和Jonathan在洛杉矶出场。
