The internet was set ablaze yesterday afterTMZ落下的录像带录像带和Quavo在去年发生的电梯中发生了争执。在对贾斯汀·拉伯（Justin Laboy）和贾斯汀·科姆斯（Justin Combs）进行了旋风采访之后，他们才两周前分手争吵between LaBoy and Migos afterwards this past Monday in Atlanta). Here’s how Saweetie announced the split:

Quavo retorted with a denial, then implied she was thirsty…

…这对一个我们因职业生涯而被迫承认的男人很富有，在一个说唱团体中，与另一个男人一起，因为他的妻子的职业生涯（Offset/ Cardi B），我们承认他。我并不是说Migos是无关紧要的，我是说他们的职业从受到比他们更名的女性的成功所支撑而受益匪浅。我是说我没有听到四年来我的单身。我没有听到任何听起来像Fight Nightin over six years.

To go back to the breakup, some people were shocked a woman as beautiful, confident, talented, famous, and rich as Saweetie could得到cheatedon, plus we were rooting for them, especially after the beautiful spread they did for GQlast七月。但是可悲的是，我们已经足够大了，可以记住发生了什么事Beyoncé。

其他人对过去的评论萨维蒂（Saweetie贾斯汀, but I thought this stood out in theinterview最好的part：

“首先，女士们，永远不要害怕不索要钱……我们是女人，我们得到了库奇。其次，尊重的是，您总是必须对此很可爱……就像宝贝，我需要一些杂货，我想去购物，您必须将其设置好可爱。”

然后，贾斯汀·科姆斯（Justin Combs）（穿着我一生中见过的最美丽的连锁店）问女人是否应该带男人购物或破坏她们。我的意思是，我不能。无论如何，Saweetie说了这一点：

“Why do boyfriends wanna be treated like girlfriends? Let me just clarify something. Men deserve to be spoiled, right? So men want you to give up the coochie, they want you to have the babies, but then they also want you to match his bag. That requires working all day, that requires hustling the same way…and you wanna be spoiled on top of that? Let’s be realistic though, it’s cool to spoil your man, but c’mon we deserve to be spoiled 24/7 because of what we can offer.”

Saweetie在男友和女友之间绘画的二进制非常顺便规范，我不喜欢它。但是，如果我们选择与男人合作，她所说的关于我们必须提供的内容是真的。What exactly do men have to offer, when a lot of the time we make more money, we have children, we deal with maternity leave and our careers being derailed, we often increase a man’s social status (and in Saweetie’s case, just like Beyoncé, JLo, Britney Spears, Whitney Houston, etc their visibility), and what do we get? A man to call a husband? It’s like capitalism, it’s not cool anymore. A lot of us want more and we absolutely should be spoiled for buying into such an archaic institution such as marriage, especially if it comes with rigid rules like monogamy attached to it (in my opinion…#respectfully).

人们将Saweetie拖着这一观点，因为她们仍然很生气，她宣布女性应得的Birkinbags. But when Drakecreepily承认已经购买了他的大量独家的Birkin collection for a woman whose taste he doesn’t know yet, he was praised. We can’t hold women in hip-hop to a higher standard than men when they are competing with men now in terms of numbers and audience. Nicki Minaj is not only the best female rapper of all time, but her competition is men. That’s why she killed Jay-Z, Kanye, and Rick Ross on the怪物在她的第一张专辑放弃前一个月的经文。那就是我们在嘻哈音乐中的地方。

But in so many ways, we are behind…and we know how dark and misogynist the industry is. WhenDr. Dre一月份有脑动脉瘤，人们不知道他是否会没事的Dee Barnes再次被擦除。就他在公共场合虐待她的责任和破坏职业生涯的责任方面，他生活在借来的时间上。这是在我们知道他的第一任妻子什么之后米歇尔saidabout how abusive he was. Then there’s the way men online are accusing Nicole Young, his estranged wife of 20 years of taking his money…when it’s her money! Everything she is entitled to is her money, andallegations在过去的一年中，他虐待她一直在泄漏。我也想指出，妮可·杨是一个lawyer，人们喜欢忘记的东西。我厌倦了人们告诉妇女婚姻和生活崩溃时要找到工作。如果他没有或削减了婚前协议（根据谣言），她有权获得的任何权利。

Then there’s Russell Simmons, who fled to巴厘岛之中指控of sexual misconduct and rape. Allegations that are so well documented, by women who are trusted voices in the hip-hop scene to this day, who have been silenced. Just last night, Drew Dixon tweeted this:

I encourage anyone who hasn’t to check out theHBO关于这个故事的纪录片，这并不像我希望在加拿大那样广泛使用。

然后当然发生了什么事Megan Thee Stallion托里·兰内斯（Torey Lanez）开枪，好像那还不够……他开了她！

因此，现在我们必须考虑到Quavo和Saweetie的关系可能存在暴力事实。在视频中，他将她推到地面上，没有提供帮助。有些人如何反应？经过blaming她。很难看到一个黑人妇女以三种方式被公开概况对待：它显示了人们自己的所作所为或宽容，或者他们会提供亲人的支持以及家庭暴力的人为代价。这就是为什么妇女不愿意暴力：他们不相信。这就是为什么他们不告诉家人和朋友的原因。不认为是女性的流行病，尤其是黑色的妇女，从暴力到medical关心。如果我对一个男人大声疾呼，我通常不相信黑人和女人专业的work. So what about Black women in the legal profession who are subject to sexual harassment or worse? People need to take responsibility for how their attitudes create unnecessary burdens in other people’s lives. And when they side with Quavo, they are adding to the systems that enable abuse and violence.

As Black people, a lot of us aren’t interested in the ridiculous ways in which we were encouraged to be silenced. As a Black woman of Caribbean descent, I am truly embarrassed by the standards that our culture perpetuates against Black women that endorse abuse, incest, homophobia, and violence. We still have relatives walking around who are alive that can’t stand the sight ofLil Nas Xliving his truth! I literally am related to people who wake up in the morning to be mad that he andZaya Wadeare being themselves - it’s miserable and embarrassing. And this kind of behaviour and belief system can ruin a child’s entire life. I am so proud that Gen Z kids aren’t holding and minimizing secrets the way Gen X taught us to and millennials are now starting to unpack. We aren’t going backwards. We actually want our people to thrive, and at least live.

With all the noiseblamingSaweetie for the situation, social media has also provided a美丽的黑色的空间menand女性to express their标准在健康的关系中，以及不包括暴力的事实。我希望Saweetie得到她需要的支持，而Quavo得到了一些帮助。

一些家庭暴力资源加拿大和US可以被找寻到她e。